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Dear Eric:
I am 71 and have a “boyfriend” who is 79. We have been a couple for more than 10 years however during that time we only saw one another on average once a week for various reasons, such as he is an hour away, we are at different stages in life and we both like our space.
It was a fun relationship with lots of drinking and some drugging, kind of like being in my 20s again.
But now, I am way more interested in settling down, seeing my grandchildren and staying healthy. He continues to have friends over daily who drink and smoke.
I rarely see him, although he calls promptly every day at 5 o’clock and continues the pretense that we are still a couple. I need to break it off and just be friends but I’m so afraid to hurt him or piss him off. He is very old-fashioned and tends to be loyal to a fault. I also feel guilty because he is almost 80 now. But time is very precious at our age. I refuse to waste it.
Am I being a total jerk? Or do I have a point? And if so, how do I kindly get it across to him?
– Not So In Love Anymore
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