DEAR ABBY: I’ve been friends with a married couple for over 40 years and knew them both before they knew each other. She’s popular, has a great sense of humor and is an excellent wife, mother, grandmother, neighbor, etc. I actually became “friends” with the husband first (quotes because he basically forced his friendship on me).
Recently, I realized I like her more than I like him, and I know she likes me. (She mentioned it to him before they married.) He has some character issues and has cheated on her in the past. It’s my belief that if I were to continue being friends with them, there would be an affair. (These things tend to sneak up on people.)
I’m semi-retired and ready to move to a warmer climate, and I want to have closure in our friendship to avoid a future awkward moment. I think the best way is to explain to them at the same time that the reason for my avoidance is because I am fonder of her than him. How do you recommend I address this issue? — CHARACTER WINS ESTEEM
DEAR CHARACTER: This type of “closure” would serve no constructive purpose. His infidelity is none of your business, and it’s not your place to teach him a lesson about character. Instead of hurting your fri...